Connection Motivation: Sharing, Acceptance and Support
Read four responses about sharing important experiences, feeling accepted and wanting dependable company. Name the kind of connection you want without assigning an attachment type.
Read the four original responses separately from the other themes. Add their 1–5 values for a raw sum of 4–20, then divide by four. The exact quarter-step mean is displayed with two decimals. All four numeric answers are required; an added unscored answer withholds this theme without replacing it with zero. A smaller value does not establish that you lack this quality or need.
Four ways connection appears in the questions
The statements cover sharing an important experience, feeling accepted in a group, having someone face a difficulty with you, and seeking connection after a long period of working alone. These can point toward different requests: listening, company or joint action. Agreement does not establish dependence, and disagreement does not establish coldness. The questionnaire does not observe your relationships or know whether a particular person is willing or able to help.
A shared mean can hide different requests
A fictional response pattern of 4, 2, 3 and 3 gives a sum of 12 and a mean of 3.00. Four answers of 3 also give 3.00, but the source midpoint explicitly means uncertainty or depending on the situation. Neither pattern is a moderate-connection category. If an answer is unscored, no mean is shown for this theme; the general guide remains available and does not become a personal verdict.
A difficult task may call for different kinds of company
Imagine preparing for a demanding appointment. One person wants a friend to listen beforehand; another wants help checking the logistics; another prefers to attend alone and talk afterward. All can involve a valued connection. These questions cannot choose the right arrangement or tell you that more contact would be better. An unmet practical need should not be replaced with a personality explanation.
Make a request that leaves room for an answer
You might say, “Would you have ten minutes to listen this evening? I do not need advice yet.” A different request is, “Could we check the two practical steps together?” Both define a manageable kind of support. “My score says you must be available whenever I need you” is a counterexample. Another person’s limit is not proof that you lack value, and a test result does not create an obligation to provide emotional support.
A quieter period needs context
After unusually frequent contact, solitude may feel welcome. After a long isolated task, a small exchange may matter more. Availability, trust, time and the nature of the problem can all affect a response. A lower mean cannot distinguish contented solitude from lack of a suitable connection, and a higher mean cannot establish that every relationship is supportive. Use your own observations to separate these possibilities.
Keep connection separate from being judged
Wanting someone to share an experience with can differ from wanting recognition for a contribution. You may want both, neither or different things in different contexts. The six theme means do not establish a hierarchy, statistical independence or a complete map of motivation. A useful question is what you would like the other person to do in this specific moment, rather than which label fits you best.
Observe one bounded exchange
If you want, make one small request to a person you trust and who can freely decline. Afterwards, note whether listening, shared activity or practical help was the part that mattered. You do not need to disclose the content publicly or track another person’s response as a score. If a connection feels unsafe or unwelcome, choosing distance is also a valid option; the exercise does not require contact or reconciliation.
Use a current reading, not a relationship diagnosis
This is a FermatMind original reflection adapted from the mini-program, with a new English translation and an explicitly added unscored choice. It has not been validated to identify attachment style, mental health or other people’s feelings. Four numeric answers are needed for this theme, while all full readings remain public. A retake can reflect a changed context or a different interpretation of a statement; it does not by itself show relationship improvement or decline.