A feeling can be real without proving an interpretation
Understand six original discomfort prompts, a separate intensity mean, a social-event example and the limits of comparing feelings with frequency.
This mean uses six 1–5 discomfort-intensity ratings, not the frequency anchors of the other groups. It is not a calibrated clinical severity score.
What an intensity response describes
The six prompts refer to discomfort when attention feels special, replacement is imagined, an enjoyable interaction is mentioned, context is unknown, an explanation leaves a worry unresolved or a comparison arises. Recall only experiences relevant to your chosen relationship and period. The rating describes your own recollection of discomfort, not how a partner intended an action or whether someone caused harm. A strong feeling can be acknowledged without turning the form into an assessment of another person.
An exact intensity mean
Ratings of 4, 2, 3, 5, 2 and 3 sum to 19. The unrounded average is 19/6, displayed as 3.2. No item is reversed. This is a descriptive summary of six ordinal responses, not a measured dose of distress or a clinical threshold. A mean of 3.2 does not tell you how long the experience lasted, how often it happened or how it affected an ordinary day. Those details would need separate attention if they matter to you.
Name the feeling while leaving intention open
Imagine hearing about a friendly gathering you did not attend. You might privately notice discomfort and uncertainty at the same time. In a wanted conversation, an example is: “Hearing about the gathering brought up a feeling of being left out. I know I do not have the whole context.” This distinguishes a feeling from an accusation. It does not oblige another person to cancel friendships, reassure repeatedly or prove affection by surrendering privacy. A conversation can also wait or not happen.
Intensity does not measure love or establish facts
A counterexample is saying that intense jealousy proves deeper love, or that low discomfort proves indifference. This tool supports neither conclusion. People differ in the situations they encountered, what they remember and what they are willing to rate. It is also possible to have a concrete boundary concern without intense emotion. Use any relevant facts and agreements separately; neither a larger nor a smaller mean verifies an accusation, excuses control or decides which feeling a person should have.
An occasional strong episode can coexist with few thoughts
The thought and action groups use frequency anchors; the discomfort group uses intensity anchors. An occasional event can feel strong while the associated thought is uncommon. Repeated thoughts can also occur with mild discomfort. These are possible distinctions, not profiles diagnosed by a score combination. All three full guides remain present without a largest group or combined jealousy label. Similar numeric means do not imply the same amount of experience or identify a primary cause.
Use unscored when the situation did not arise
If you recalled the situation and felt no discomfort, choose the first numeric option. If there was no relevant experience, you cannot judge or you do not want to answer, choose unscored. Those situations are not interchangeable. All six numeric responses are needed for an intensity mean; the page does not treat a missing situation as calmness. Other complete groups keep their means, and an entirely unscored form can finish with every complete guide still readable.
This is an original reflection, without clinical bands
The conceptual distinction between emotion, cognition and behaviour comes from jealousy research. The new prompts, 1–5 anchors, four-week window and completeness policy are not a published MJS protocol and inherit no reliability or validity evidence. English and Chinese are original FermatMind wording without established measurement equivalence. No normal range, diagnosis, attachment type or relationship prognosis is calculated. A mean also cannot tell whether support is needed; your lived difficulty matters independently of a score.
Acknowledge one feeling without a required exercise
If useful, note what you felt, what was happening and what you still cannot know from the event. You may prefer time, an ordinary supportive conversation or no action for now. Nothing here requires reliving a difficult scene, checking another person or sharing a result. You can leave the tool when it is not helpful. The public guide explains the method rather than your private intensity ratings, and another person’s response to a link cannot validate or invalidate your feeling.