Discuss the Arrangement before Choosing a Side
Review regular company, time alone, separate interests and renegotiation. The six statements include both shared and personal time; the mean does not place you on a clingy–independent spectrum.
Agreement with this group does not establish a need for more or less company. There is no time-allocation ratio or relationship-balance score. Read the specific arrangements separately.
The Six Statements Include Company and Time Alone
- This group covers regular time together, comfort from time alone, discussing plans, separate interests and social connections, renegotiating after change and recovering alone after an activity. Shared time and personal space are not set up as endpoints that require choosing one over the other.
- You can want both, and arrangements can change between periods of life. Greater agreement may reflect several of these statements fitting, but it cannot specify how much time is wanted. Duration, frequency and the activities each person wants still need to be discussed separately.
How the Six-Item Mean Is Calculated
- Add six numeric responses from 1 to 5 for a raw sum of 6–30, then divide by six and display up to four decimal places. Responses 4, 3, 5, 2, 4, 3 total 21 and average 3.5; a total of 29 averages 4.8333. This summarizes agreement, not frequency or population standing.
- The web edition permits an unscored response. One such answer withholds this group’s numbers rather than becoming a 3 or a low score. Other complete groups remain available, and all four guides stay readable. The original Mini requires all 24 numeric responses before personal interpretation; the two completeness policies are stated separately.
A Shared Weekend with Some Time Alone
- You would like lunch together at the weekend and some time for your own activity afterwards. You can name both: “I would like to have lunch together, and then spend a while on my own.” Your partner may have another plan. The discussion concerns the arrangement, not proof of greater love.
- If you both want to reconnect later, choose a workable way to do so. If that is undecided, say so. Separating available time from desired time can help keep work, caring responsibilities or tiredness from being automatically interpreted as a lack of regard for the relationship.
A Mean Cannot Reveal a Time Ratio
- The same mean may arise from valuing both shared and personal time or from uncertainty about some statements on negotiation. It does not calculate how often to meet or classify time alone as avoidance, dependence or maturity. The items provide no basis for those assignments.
- Someone may rarely be able to meet while valuing company greatly. Another person may share a room often and still want uninterrupted moments. Circumstances affect what is possible; an observed frequency does not have to become a fixed preference.
How This Differs from the Other Three Parts
- Emotional sharing concerns words for feelings. Physical closeness and boundaries concerns present confirmation. Visibility and privacy concerns information shared with others. This group concerns arrangements for shared and personal time. Being together does not require talking or physical closeness.
- You can want a relationship acknowledged publicly while keeping separate interests, or prefer privacy while arranging regular company. Each part summarizes different statements. There is no total that can establish whether investment in a relationship is enough.
Describe One Arrangement with Three Pieces of Information
- If you already want to discuss plans, note the shared time you would like, the personal time you would like to keep and the practical conditions you can currently confirm. Discuss one point you want to share. You do not need to account for every activity while alone or give identical answers.
- You might ask, “Which times can each of us confirm this week, and what should stay open?” If you find an arrangement you both want, observe how it works. Without one, matters can remain undecided; the test is not a reason to demand a changed schedule.
Space Is Not Concealment; Company Is Not an Obligation
- Wanting personal time does not automatically establish concealment, distrust or indifference. Wanting company does not establish clinginess. Participation in an activity remains each person’s decision; one person’s score cannot arrange the other person’s time.
- This part does not assess relationship health, balancing ability, attachment type or outcomes. It cannot explain why a real disagreement occurred. You can keep the result private and retain only an observation that helps you think about a current arrangement.
Source, Web Privacy and Retaking
- This edition preserves the six original Chinese statements and forward scoring from FermatMind’s original Intimacy Preferences Mini. English is a new working translation without established cross-language equivalence. These web examples add explanation; they do not establish psychometric validation.
- Web answers stay only in the current page’s memory and clear on reload, language change or leaving. The website does not inherit the original Mini’s device draft or result cache. When retaking, use the conditions you can confirm then; different responses need not establish a changed preference.